Because you have a relatively calm demeanor and value acting in a just manner, you undoubtedly thought long and hard before deciding that divorce was best for your circumstances. You and your spouse may simply have reached a point where you could no longer get along, and though you wanted to work through the issues, it was not feasible in the end.
Still, you want to do your best to make the legal process as painless as possible. Unfortunately, your spouse has already expressed signs that he or she will make the situation as difficult as possible for the both of you simply to get back at you. As a result, you may have to ready yourself for a high-conflict case.
Why do high-conflict cases occur?
Contrary to popular belief, all divorce cases do not have to become a battle. Unfortunately, some people will see it that way from the beginning, and your spouse may not show any willingness to negotiate with you on any topic relating to your case. In fact, your soon-to-be ex-spouse may have made it clear that he or she intends to “win” the case, even though divorce has no winner.
If this sounds like your situation, you will likely face roadblocks and conflict from the other party for the majority of your case unless he or she sees reason and backs off from this contentious stance. In some cases, these combative feelings can stem from a sense of hurt or being wronged in the relationship, and if your spouse can come to terms with those feelings or if you can offer apologies for ways in which you may have contributed to those feelings, it may mitigate the contention.
Of course, even if you do try to make amends or see things from your spouse’s side, it may not help the situation. Your spouse may simply have a high-conflict personality, and if so, you may have few options for lessening the amount of conflict involved in your divorce. Fortunately, that does not leave you without hope.
You can work with an Oklahoma attorney experienced in this type of scenario who could help you understand the best possible routes for handling a contentious divorce and working toward the best possible outcome for your case. Having an advocate on your side may help you feel less overwhelmed by the difficult ordeal.