When you share children with someone you aren’t in a relationship with any longer, it can be difficult to handle the decision-making process. Trying to keep things positive throughout this process can help both adults, as well as the children. 

Be sure that you remember to put your kids first. Their wellbeing always has to be the focal point of the decisions you make. As you navigate through the situation, they will begin to learn how to work through challenging circumstances. 

One challenge of co-parenting is the communication between the adults. Make sure that you speak directly to each other and never try to use the children as messengers. Respectful communication is the cornerstone of making things work in this situation. If things do get heated, take the time to step away for a bit to let things cool down some. 

Be sure you take care of yourself during this time by eating, exercising and getting enough sleep. This can help you to remain in the best shape possible so that you can make the decisions you need to. It can also help you to keep your stress under control. 

Take the time to focus on the good things that are going on. Being thankful sets you in a mindset that enables you to try to enjoy the time you do have with your children. When you’re going through this situation, it’s best to focus on having quality time with them instead of always looking at how much time you get. 

Your parenting plan is another way that you can make things easier. You should have the terms that you and your ex agree to listed in this plan so there isn’t a question about what needs to happen.